Does Healing Only Happens In New Relationships?

Hey guys

Just came across this TikTok where someone was talking about how you don't heal before you enter a relationship; you heal while you're in the new relationship.

Guys, that's the biggest load of absolute nonsense I've ever heard. Now, don't misunderstand me. Occasionally, one out of a hundred guys might stumble upon an incredible relationship with a wonderful woman who has already done her inner work.

She knows how to communicate effectively and can support you through your healing journey.

That's the exception, not the rule, and definitely not what usually happens.

The vast majority of the time, about 99%, guys who don't address their healing before entering a relationship end up repeating the same mistakes.

They get triggered, grapple with trust issues, struggle to communicate with their partner, and the list goes on.

They might get into a relationship with the wrong woman due to unresolved past issues, attracting the same type of person who hurts them once again.

On the off chance that they luck into a relationship with a great woman, they end up sabotaging it because they're not genuinely prepared for a meaningful relationship.

They're not ready to trust or communicate openly. Their past pains and frustrations poison the new relationship.

Consider this, gentlemen: which amazing woman would want to be in a relationship with a guy who doesn't trust her, carries baggage from the past, reacts negatively to situations that aren't even her fault?

Just as you wouldn't want to be with a woman laden with emotional baggage, trust issues, and poor communication skills, a healthy, mature woman desires the same.

So, if you aspire to be in a beautiful, thriving relationship, it's absolutely crucial that you take the time to heal first. You must work on yourself to attract the right woman.

Once you find that special someone, you can build a remarkable relationship together. You deserve that, gentlemen, but remember, it's not a matter of chance.

Don't rely on wishful thinking, hoping that a perfect partner will swoop in and everything will magically fall into place. You'd be setting yourself up for disappointment.

Take action. Work on yourself, seek guidance, go through the necessary process, and equip yourself to build a wonderful relationship. It demands effort, dedication, and commitment.

Invest in this journey, and you'll reap the rewards.

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We're here to support you every step of the way.

— Kody Steddy